I’ve spent many years hustling- promoting myself and my dreams, running around in circles to create and grind and pitch and jump over and dream bigger and move faster and create the illusion that I have it all together.
2017 taught me how much constant “hustle” and “grind” can be attached to an unhealthy need for prestige- being perceived a certain way, not showing weakness or vulnerability, needing to have it all together. 2017, also, taught me how much “hustle” and “grind” can quickly lead to burn out, stress, anxiety and fear. When we constantly have our noses to the floor we are unable to see all the beauty that exists around us, and that makes us ungrateful, unfocused and plain old tired.
2018 will be different for me because I am making a decision to no longer hustle for my self-worth. I will say no to the opportunities and relationships that are not for me, and I will not feel guilty about it. I will say yes to the opportunities and relationships that are for me, and I will hold them close while leaving necessary room for growth and change. I will finally center my relationships, my creativity, my travel goals, and my emotional, physical & spiritual health. I will read more fiction, and take longer baths, and wear brighter colors, and drink more bubble tea, and speak abundance in my finances, and connect with God to know Her better. Utilizing Ohio State University’s 9 dimensions of wellness, I have come up with a few intentions for the upcoming year that will help me to prioritize HEALTH over HUSTLE. What are your intentions for 2018??
Creative Wellness: The creatively well person values and actively participates in a diverse range of arts and cultural experiences as a means to understand and appreciate the surrounding world.
I want to stop thinking about creativity in terms of monetization and good/bad. I want to start thinking about creativity in terms of pride, growth, expression and joy.
- INTENTION: To create and inspire others to create. Write the stories, perform in the show, knit the sweater, illustrate the idea, sing loudly in the shower- create to give yourself and others joy.
Career Wellness: The professionally well person engages in work to gain personal satisfaction and enrichment, consistent with values, goals, and lifestyle.
I want to stop thinking about career in terms of prestige and grind. I want to start thinking about career in terms of contribution, lifestyle, bliss.
- INTENTION: To exclusively say yes to the professional opportunities that fit with my values and lifestyle. If it’s not a HELL YES, it’s a no.
Social Wellness: The socially well person has a network of support based on interdependence, mutual trust, respect and has developed a sensitivity and awareness towards the feelings of others.
I want to stop thinking about relationships in terms of labels and quantity. I want to start thinking about relationships in terms of quality; relationships with family, friends, mentors, peers, etc. should be fun, vulnerable, meaningful encounters filled with surprises and adventures.
- INTENTION: To show gratitude and priority to those I am in close relationship with.
- INTENTION: To cultivate new relationships that are grounded in accountability, respect, laughing till your stomach hurts, mutual sharing and growth.
Spiritual Wellness: The spiritually well person seeks harmony and balance by openly exploring the depth of human purpose, meaning, and connection through dialogue and self-reflection.
I want to stop thinking about spirituality in terms of labels and strict dogma. I want to start thinking about spirituality in terms of synchronicity, guidance, nature-imbued and grace-filled practice.
- INTENTION: To be present. To take notice. To see all the beautiful things that surround me on a daily basis, and to be consistently grateful to God for my life.
Financial Wellness: The financially well person is fully aware of financial state and budgets, saves, and manages finances in order to achieve realistic goals.
I want to stop thinking about finances in terms of lack and fear. I want to start thinking in terms of abundance, joy and meaning. Be guided by this question: How am I going to use my finances to bring myself and others lasting joy?
INTENTION: Utilize my financial abundance to invest in transformational experiences- travel, dinner with friends, donating to a meaningful cause, saving up for to attend that conference, etc.
Environmental Wellness : The environmentally well person recognizes the responsibility to preserve, protect, and improve their social and physical environment, and appreciates the inter-connectedness of all living people and things.
I want to stop thinking about winning the argument or gaining prestige. I want to start thinking about uplifting others, dismantling systems, creating legacy and providing access.
INTENTION: To create and take part in opportunities inside and outside of work to connect with others in social justice centered affinity spaces AND learning spaces. Show grace to others, and focus more deeply on developing meaningful relationships while also holding myself and others accountable for their actions.
Physical Wellness: The physically well person gets an adequate amount of sleep, eats a balanced and nutritious diet, engages in exercise for 150 minutes per week, attends regular medical check-ups, and practices safe and healthy sexual relations.
I want to stop thinking about physical health in terms of numbers, weight and appearance. I want to start thinking about physical health in terms of fun, nourishment and access.
INTENTION: To move my body in a meaningful way at least once a day. Go to yoga, take a walk around campus, crazy dance around my room.
Emotional Wellness: The emotionally well person can identify, express, and manage the entire range of feelings and would consider seeking assistance to address areas of concern.
I want to stop thinking about emotional wellness in terms of normal vs. not normal. I want to start thinking about emotional wellness in terms of individualization, validation and bravery.
INTENTION: To recognize and celebrate when I practice bravery, resilience and/or respect for myself and my emotional needs.
Intellectual Wellness: The intellectually well person values lifelong learning and seeks to foster critical thinking, develop moral reasoning, expand worldviews, and engage in education for the pursuit of knowledge.
I want to stop thinking about intellectual health in terms of strategy, career moves, and prestige. I want to start thinking about intellectual health in terms of joy and growth.
INTENTION: To continue supplementing my in-class learnings with validating outside learning experiences through conversation, artistic engagement, travel, etc.